My Thoughts/Reflections on "Hooking Up"

First things first, my definition of hooking up does not include sleeping with someone. But sometimes it does.

Okay, so recently some events in my life have caused me to stop and reflect on myself as a person, and my morals.  I joke with my friends saying that "I have no soul," that I am the "Ice Queen" because I don't really have emotions when it comes to guys.. weird, I know, you would think it would be the other way around.

I wasn't always this way.  I used to be the crazy, omg-he-kissed-me-(or texted or whatever)-he-definitely-wants-to-date-me type. Scaring guys away with my tendency to text them too much, or just come on too strong.  However, over the years, I have developed a characteristic that is the complete polar opposite of that girl.  I just don't care anymore.  I meet a guy--and whatever, I am not running to my phone the next day to text them "hiii:)."  In fact, if they do text me, I usually don't even answer.  I'm really a nice person I swear.

What's ironic is, when I do talk to a guy, regardless of if we have hung out before or anything, my caring personality would and is be misinterpreted into being "interested" or "clingy," when all I was doing was asking about your exam you told me you were stressing about... and they say girls are complex... so to solve this problem, I just stopped.  Seriously, I just starting to give zero fucks and said "yolo" a lot; stop judginggg.

So being a soul-less slut (hahah not really, at all) has been working for me.  Only, all my friends have boyfriends and are acting all grown up (vom) a part of me wants to have a steady boyfriend, but another part of me just wants to have fun and continue to not give a shit.
And recently I met a guy I had a freakishly lot in common with, like weird things you would never think you would have in common with anyone.. and I didn't even think about like, it becoming anything until he said "so you know, I'm not looking for anything, I just got out of a relationship..." something along those lines, he really knows how to make a girl feel special (kidding he is really sweet).  My response? "I just met you... it's cool though, don't worry, I have no soul or emotions." or something along those lines..I really have a way with words.  Thinking back on it, I made myself sound like a raging whore.  What I should have/meant to say is "I understand, don't worry, I'm not the clingy, attached type." ..even though that really not much better, but whatever.

I like having fun and not having to care or worry; but at the same time, I want a boyfriend, I want to have that nervous/butterflies in my stomach feeling when I see him, and be able to smile because he's mine.  I want to smile like a thirteen year old girl just got kissed on the cheek by Justin Bieber when I get a text or call from him, and just when I'm with him.  I want to fall in love.

BUTTTTT, until then I'm just gonna continue being reckless and have fun.

YOLO.

S

IF YOU'RE PREGNANT AND YOU KNOW IT.. POST IT ON FACEBOOK?!

Disclaimer: this is probably the most controversial post I will ever post... ever. 


Congratulations! You made it to the age of 20 before getting knocked up! You officially do not fall under the category of "teen mom." GO YOU!  

I understand accidents happen and you have no choice but to take responsibility, but when you plan it? Don't even get me startedddddd.

You and your "man" have been together for almost x amount of years, unless x= 10 and you are considered  to be legally married, you have no business bringing a child into this world.

High School girls: bragging on social media about how you can't wait to be a mommy and blah blah blah... it's unbecoming and just plain stupid.  Enjoy your time as a child, live your life, there are so many things the world holds, exciting things, things that you won't be able to experience because you thought it was a good idea to have a baby.

Girls who have graduated high school: just because you graduated high school, or didn't... and you are over the age of 18, does not mean you are mature enough nor able to have a baby. Yes, babies are wonderful things and becoming a mother I can only imagine is the most beautiful, amazing, great thing ever, but supporting a baby on your six credits from community college and your baby daddy claiming he loves you and will take care of you.   If you believe this, YOU SHOULD NOT BE HAVING A CHILD.

And lastly, DO NOT post facebook statuses seeking out congratulations or sympathy because you have to work while you're pregnant... because the people that are ignorant and stupid enough to fall for it are just ueojdfmobnvmwoejn I have no words.  ALSO, get the pictures out of my newfeed of your baby bumps and what not, I would be embarrassed, actually I would be mortified if I got pregnant and wasn't married..
(again, there are situations when accidents happen, but I'm pro-choice, (don't like it? then see yaaa) and believe that option is also there and should be taken advantage of.)


As I said before, I understand things happen, and yes babies are brought into this world unplanned, but for GOD'S SAKE people, they don't teach us about safe sex in high school for nothing!! 


Maybe this is just my opinion because I am absolutely petrified of growing up.  I am super responsible and mature, but all these people blowing up my newsfeed of facebook with marraiges and engagements and THEIR FUCKING BABIES. It makes me crazy.  We are so young, when you think about it, if we live until we are 100, we have only lived 1/5 of our life, some even less.  It baffles me and just straight up blows my mind, we have our whole life ahead of us, what the hell is the RUSH?


xoxox,


forever young  

When NOT to tell someone you are in love with them.

1. If they're in a relationship already
2. If they're one of your best friends
3. If you are about to risk one of the most important friendships to you
4. If you have been drinking (or if you haven't.)
5. Via text message


Because you'll just get denied.
Life's a bitch.